1. “He should be nice to me because I’m nice to him.” “Should” is a harmful word in this sentence because:

( )  It implies that he is a horrible person.

( )  It shows you expect to control him by what you do. ( )  It hurts your feelings.

( )  All of the above.

  

2. “She made me slap her by calling me stupid.” This is wrong because:

( )  I have no right to hit someone for calling me a name. ( )  I have control over my actions, not her.

( )  Violence doesn’t solve problems. ( )  All of the above.

 

3. “The teacher is to blame because I failed his stupid class.” ( )  Yes, because he’s boring.

( )  No, because the girl next to me is the problem. ( )  It doesn’t matter anyway.

( )  None of the above

  

4. “I must be loved by everyone.”

This statement gets us in trouble because…

( )  It’s OK not to be loved if you love yourself. ( )  There is too much love in the world.

( )  You can force people to love you with gifts. ( )  Love means nothing in tennis.

 

5. “I must not make mistakes or do poorly.”

( )  Mistakes just mean that I didn’t work hard enough. ( )  I’m too stupid to do things right.

( )  Doing things well feels good but making mistakes is human. ( )  There is no excuse for messing up.

 

6. “Everything must turn out just the way I want it to.

( )  Yes, because I’m the center of the universe!

( )  People must act just the way I want them to or else they’re bad. ( )  I’ve got to have control of other people.

( )  I can’t control other people.

 

 7. One thing I take ownership for that I used to blame on someone else. Example:  “I now take ownership for my grades when I used to blame teachers.

I now take ownership for  ________________ when I used to blame ______________.

 

8. After reading the sentences below replace the following irresponsible, non-ownership words (left column) with ownership words from the right-hand column.

 

I’ve got to get this job at BestBuy! I can’t pass this class.

I must have a 3.00 grade average.

You are responsible for me getting into trouble, cutting was your idea. She is the hottest girl in school.

I miss every stop light on the way to school every day. I’ll try to stay sober this weekend.

 

( ) Got to / Have to ( ) Can’t

( ) Must have

( ) We / you / they ( ) Is

( ) Every

( ) Try

A. I think / I believe / It looks to me B.  I choose / I want

C.  Will or won’t (you choose) D.  Some/many/most/a few

E.  It would be nice but I can live without it. F.  I won’t / I choose not

G.  I / My